what an instructor said regarding the height elements at the class adv. camp was really true. 'what you put into something, you get out of that something.' everything is like that. so it's rather obvious that if you subscribe to the belief that levels of relationships and friendships are 'destined' and 'cannot be helped'. that's pure rubbish 'cos unless you know you've really tried, a failed relationship is only the result of a lack of positive inputs.

of course, the ability to click and the wavelengths being on the same frequency matter as well. if you're a lively and active person there is absolutely no way you're going to find a true close friend in a more reserved, quiet person. it's just too hard - there's too obvious a personality clash. this is also not to say that in a class of different people with mixed personalities, everyone can't get along with everyone else. that's also rubbish 'cos that's very possible.

why are some people more bonded than others, why are some people more of a loner-type, why do some groups of people have stronger ties than others? it all boils to down to the matter of the efforts made to strengthen the ties that bind. this is of course regarding a group of people with rather similar thoughts and whatever. the question of commitments also comes to mind as inevitably people with other commitments will be bonded to those who they work with in these commitments, and no matter how much they try they hardly find the time to sit down and try to relate to their other friends. but if there's a will, there's a way and i'm not saying that it's impossible to be done. but it's hard.

why was 4A so bonded? perhaps it might be due to the fact that we were the only class with our subject combi and didn't move around to join other classes. perhaps it was everyone being fun people and willing to contribute positively to the class, even though minor conflicts might crop up here and there. perhaps it was the abundance of capable people in our class with different talents and abilities, and the opportunities we had to learn from each other. perhaps it was us being able to talk rubbish and hang around listlessly just enjoying each other's company. perhaps it was the fact that even when class gathering's were across the country at nicky's house, everyone who could be there would be there, and have one hell of a time. I don't know. But I do know that 4A'06 is possibly the best class to have ever existed. And although the past is the past and we need to focus on the present. Perhaps it's the old ties that prevent us from strengthening new ones.

And i'm not the only one guilty of this. We might be fine and dandy getting along with one another during class times and group stuff but come our free time, we speed off to find our better, old friends to have great times once again, behaviours that we are so used to. And hence the question of whether we are able to put in effort into our new relationships comes in once again.

But whatever. I'll play along as it comes. I'll take things one step at a time. Here's to a stronger class spirit and a great 2 years together. Our class people are really nice and interesting, and coming from me that's saying something 'cos it takes quite a lot to interest me.

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and I
never wanna say goodbye
but girl you make it hard to be faithful
with the lips of an angel



honey, why're you calling me, so late?

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it's just that you never do call, do you?